This question was posed to me yesterday on this site http://www.formspring.me/Jayceeluv feel free to check it out and ask me anything. This question was particular interesting to me so since it cannot be condensed to twitters 160 characters its a perfect question to answer here.

Do you find any satisfactionin being a woman that exploits herself?

Now Lets get into the definition of exploits

Exploit- use or manipulate to one’s advantage

Back in Late Dec 07 I sat in my roomates living room and made the decision to do porn.. to pack my bag take the trip w Jon Jon to cali, strip down for producers so they can see what i look like, and turn around and do a scene with Jon Jon b4 the trip was over. Mind you still totally clear of sound mind body and soul. No one pushed me No one sugar coated anything, i was not drunk, or high. knew full well this was forever as far as being out there and that did not matter. So no one manipulated me into anything and I used myself an my body for my advantage to make money and to continue make money..at the end of the day you have a choice and I chose to do this with no regrets.

Exploit- draw from; make good use of

I draw from myself on a daily basis, staying on my grind and hustle. I make good use of myself as a person, my mind to get what i need to get done. Speaking porn is a job yes i use my body for every scene i have been in to do a job that I like and enjoy.

Exploit- overwork: work excessively hard

I am a workaholic. Hell as a stripper I will stay in the club till it closes if i have not made my goal for the night. I know where i want to be as far as money and in life. I know what i want my little ones to have in life and I will work extremely hard to get that. I chose to be a stripper and be someone that does porn and as with any paying job you have to work hard to get what you want to get to where u want to be.

Exploit- feat: a notable achievement

I have no regrets. I love to dance I love to do porn. It takes a bold person to be able to do what I do as far as being a stripper but most importantly to do porn. I think its a great achievement to know I can choose my own schedule, be around my kids when most parents are fighting to be around their kids because of their work schedule. I think its incredible to be able to pay your bills, live comfortably and have a job that you enjoy. An as long as i meet my goals and expectations I have for myself and my family then thats all that matters.

So as far as your question, yes i take great satisfaction in what i do I love it. In this case exploiting myself is awesome!

I recently got a person who disagreed with my last post about finding lasting relationhips with strippers/dancers and i felt the answer i gave should be answered a little bit more in depth. Here is what that person said…

I disagree with your opinion that you can’t meet a life long partner at a strip club.My wife and I found each other at a strip club she was a dancer.

My answer:   while that does happen its very rare. most just want to keep the money comming and once it stops the guy is no longer apart of her “life”. at the same time u cant come into a strip club trying to stop a dancer from making money and start relationship

While my original post has been in my experience and also the case and opinions  of other dancers, I can only speak for myself right now.

It is true I am in a relationship and when Im working, I am solely there to work. Im not there 2 exchange numbers, meet outside the club ect ect.I am there to work enjoy the time i have with those that do spend on me and then go back to my life. The last thing i want while working is for A. a guy to not spend on me and b. only want to talk to me about what he can do for me/to me, how he wants me to be his girlfriend, pls can he have my number, cant we be friend w benefits ect ect. while yes i can blow smoke up your ass and say yes to everything you want until i get my money realistically its just not going to happen..and in the cash business or any business where there is trust and dealing with money, my word is everything while i could have fucked you out of your money its going to fuck my money in the future because you are going to label me a liar and tell any and every one.

So why even set yourself up for failure. when i can be honest and if you are not interested in buying and having fun in the club with me then i can get up and move on. at the end of the day i have 2 pimps who i pushed out and care about deeply that my money goes to. All that boyfriend stuff and talking a guy may be doing is wasting my time in a place where time is money…Im one of the coolest and realist chicks you will meet in a strip club I am there to work, have fun with the guys and go home.

So many of my guy friends i know have had their heart stomped on by a stripper because they were nice and spent money on them inside and outside the club and supposedly was in a relationship with them. The day they didnt make a club apparance, or stopped spending like they used to the girl was out their life and the was now some stranger. and here he comes talking to me as their friend like she said she liked me we loved each other, she wont answer my calls! and im honest no she didn’t like u or love you she loved ur money!

A strip club for strippers is a place of work..there may be 1 out the bunch that may find it a perk to score a relationship out the deal, but the other are there to work. Some are honest, some arent, Some area focused solely on the money no matter how or who they may hurt to get it, and some will dance for you and go out 2 ur car and suck and fuck u off for the same price of that lap dance…..thats just reality..

Guys in strip club looking for a date/real relationship…then get mad when their feelings get hurt…

For 1, When we are at the strip club, we are not there to converse, kick it, chill out, hang, whatever you want to call it…We are there to make m oney…its our job! We are there to be nice, cheerful, and sell the club and our talents to you guys so you guys can pay us the money that we then in most cases take home to pay bills, shop, whatever…

For whatever reasom guys seem to think the strip club is the perfect place to get a life long partner, girlfriend, best friend whatever and its just not the case…Every guy that walks in is a potential to give us money..just depends on whats his type, who he is looking for ect…

And thats the focus of the night. yeah you can come in trying to spit game…the only thing in my head and any money making girl at the club is what can u do for me? you spend money and hey we are happy why becuase thats a plus! you have given us the money and you are nice…now u can either keep giving money or if you are all out i need to move on and make some more money until you get some more…

And if you come in without money….some of us will approach you howver again any money making girl at the club will stick around to see if you are going to pay some money be it for time or dances….once thats not happening we are going to move on to the next one, or come back and hang for a few secs when its super slow.. again money is the forefront of this conversation…

And lets say money was spent, a good night was had, and numbesrs were exchanged…means nothing why? based on what you just spent in the club the number exchange is not for the start of a meaningful relationship, its still what can u do for me outside the club? can u take me shopping? can you spoil me? if i say my rent/bill is due when you try and call me will you up and pay for it? this especially applies to the married/girl in a relationship thats seeing what u possibly can do for her tha her man is not doing…it may not be just about cash in hand..it could be shopping fancy, going out on dates they are not used to doing..for the single girl this is the i want to see if you are still going to spend/take care of me should i decided to take things a step further..

Plain and simple…stop looking for chicks to date/be in a relationship w in the strip club….especially if you don’t want someone who u think is always going to be in your pockets…once you walk into that strip club you are potential money. period case closed…when we are working we are about our money and dont have time to be playing around on some im lookin for a girlfriend, i want to do…outside of the club…mess

You want a relatioinship with a stripper that doesn’t revolve around money? catch her where money is not the forefront/her mind is not on money. places like the gas station, grocery store, regular nightclub…then both parties are on a even playing field to see who brings what to the table…

Strippers that dont want to make money…

Sad but true! There are chicks that get up everyday go to the strip club not to make money but to just chit chat and do nothing…at least thats what is seems like lol

case in point-

Several clubs I have worked in I have had my money Jagged not because the guy dont have any money, but because the stripper who is supposed to be there to work…does not want to make money!!OMG! Here’s how my $ gets jagged…

its me a guy and another stripper. the other stripper usually comes into play after i have left and went on stage, i come back and she is still chatting w the person i was with first. since my drink is there and he wants me there i sit back down. so eventually we continue the convo but now add the second stripper into the money equation.. The convo is usually the guy is ready to go for a half hour sometimes a hour with me and would also like to take the other chick as well..Im thinking lets go fucking score! but no not yet…

The other stripper is usually sitting like 2 feet away from the guy, closed off acting scared or not saying much..(im assuming that she thinks ima step off even though i was there first) but to the guy who is ready to go spend money, hes not going to spend money on 1 chick whos ready to go and just give the money to the other stripper who acting all prude or like she dnt know whats going on/being anti social…so i try to not only salvage the sale but also try and do the “she looks shy but shes a real freak in the room” lines…

You would think if the bitch was listening she would come closer, show some interest in the guy who is about to spend on her but nope…mind u also during these senarios the club is dead and this sale would probably be the only mney she makes the whole nite! but nope…she is still silent, anti social, just not interested in making money..so what does the guy do?

leans over to me and suggest we go into the room with another girl/gets bored with the anti social chick…problem is shes still sitting there!!! eventually she has to go on stage which equals more time waiting/leaving him time to change his mind since he does not want to be rude and tell her to step the fuck off( i would but that may be a fight at the end of the night lol) so once she goes on stage we make our move to the chick he really wants and me…. but guess what??

he has to take a piss/offically change his mind on spending at all…so when he comes out the bathroom we now have to remind him what we want to finish and as we are talking all he wants to do is leave/make agreement for another day that he will not be showing up…

and as he leaves there goes my 150/300/500 depending  on the club walking out the fucking door…leaving my blood boiling especially if its now the end of the night…im ready to fucking kill somebody….